Trust = Happiness =Success

Who do you really trust? Do you feel better when you have people you can trust? Do you notice people that have confidence in everyone are always so happy and free? It doesn’t natter that you think they’re naive. 

Do you have people or companies that provide service to you that you trust? I have a few people I go to that I trust and it gives me some freedom. I go to a tire place that I also have change my oil, and I go to a chiropractor that has my trust. I’m not foolish, and yes, I pay them, sometimes quite a bit, but I know what I’m getting and I don’t question the charges. 

What does it take to build that trust and create a sense of freedom from the stress of spending? How do I know they’re being honest if I don’t know their job? If they’re looking out for you, you’ll know. This goes exactly the same way with a coach, or trainer. My tire guy tells me when I still have life on my tires, and how many miles. He rotates my tires, the ones I bought from him, for free. If I get a nail or something in there, he fixes it at no charge. When it comes ro my oil and brakes, he gives me the option of buying my own parts. This lets me know he’s not looking to get an extra fee by over-charging for parts. And he doesn’t lie to me about time. I give him my keys and he outs me in line. He doesn’t let his guys mill about and trusts his guys to get the work done. 

My chiropractor shows me exercises to do at home so that I never have to see him. He also charges the same price, whether he does extra work on me or the same routine alignment that I initially went in for. He knows me, knows what I do, and calls me out when he sees that I’m not doing what I should be. 

I also have a mechanic that I go to that I know only stays in business if he continues to work on vehicles. I don’t trust him as much to look out for my best interest and it makes ne think twice. This creates hesitation in accepting the things he tells me and settles a little bit of stress on my plate. 

You should be able to trust your coach to be doing right by you and your best interest. Many people I talk to may not like the way I tell them things, but I only care that they are doing the work that will serve their best interest in the end. I don’t want to be a lifetime coach. I will, without hesitation, but the goal in coaching is to give you the knowledge to be successful on your own, not be dependent on your coach. Everything I tell you will be honest and from the heart. It will be for you to accept responsibility and understand what happens in each scenario you create. 

When you’re happy, you’re successful. Having less stress, trusting more, creates happiness. The more you don’t worry gives you more opportunities to smile and accept life. This leads to more success. 

Priority…YOU

If you’re like me, you get wrapped in things you are trying to accomplish, even when most of your time is spent with work that is not in-line with what you want. 

Take a break. Make sure you are doing things that you like to do. Things that relax you. Things that interest you. If you do not know what interests you have, that is a perfect time to take a break to find out. 
I was out of town for work this week, by myself, and decided to take advantage of my time by doing things I don’t normally get to do. I made friends with some people that were there from all over the US and decided to hangout with them over a 3 day period. There wasn’t much do in the small town we were in so it wasn’t hard to want to do something else, but we had to drive a ways to do anything. 
I hadn’t played golf in at least 8yrs, so when a couple guys asked if I wanted to, I couldn’t agree fast enough. It was cheap, convenient and wasted some time I had had available, and there was no pressure to be good, which benefits me because I am not. I actually planned on heading out to a place in the middle of nowhere for what was advertised as an amazing steak with another group, but couldn’t pass on a little exercise. Key word, little. 
I decided I’d take a trip out the land of steak on the last night I would be in town, but there was no way I was missing it. I found out another guy that was there alone wanted to go too but didn’t want to go alone, so we made it a date. On the way out we made a stop by some gigantic satellites. It was also the first time I had seen wildlife that didn’t include bats, roaches, and jack rabbits. 
The first full day I was there we went to some old fort, which wasn’t much of a fort, way out in the middle of nowhere. Finding something in the middle of nowhere, of the middle of nowhere is actually not to easy. On the way back we stopped at a “restaurant” that featured on FOOD Network. 
I wasn’t there for a vacation but figured I would probably never be there again, so why would I pass on the experiences I may never have. 
The countryside was beautiful and the steak was fantastic. Everything outside if this little town was great. It felt good to get away from what I had planned, to actually enjoy my time with new friends, and to just get out. 
Now, my wife didn’t seem to happy that I treated it like vacation since she wasn’t there, but she gets plenty of time to do things she wants so I want give it another thought. 
Take care of you, so that you can take care of others. Life is about balance. When is the last time you checked your balance? Wether its wealth, or wellth, you need to make sure you are managing it better. Even if you think its good, I’m sure you can find ways to make it better. 

The travel struggles

I’m out of state for some training during the week and finding it more than difficult to get back on track with my eating. I haven’t been doing as well as I should be with all of training and programs I’ve been working on. 

Yes, I know, that’s just an excuse. Believe me, I know, and I’m working to knock the dust off, which seems to be getting harder and harder depending on where I am. 

This week, I am in New Mexico, in the middle of nowhere, and I figured that being in a small town would help me eat good and workout while I was here. 

WROOOOOONG!!!!!!!!

This town is tiny, hot and full of fast food restaurants. For as small as it is, it has a Walmart, 3 Dollar stores and every fast food, and pizza chain you can think of. I had to go to the store yesterday to get bowls and salad stuff to make my own salads in my room, along with a smoked turkey leg to pull apart for protein. 

Wish me luck. Everything around me is setting me up for failure. I need to get nack in track before I head out to New Orleans in October, because you know its going to be hard there. 

I actually went for a short run, when it cooled down, and hit their tiny gym. I planned on swimming but the pool in their photos is much bigger than their actual pool. 

For all of you who think I don’t know the struggles of life’s normal stress and it impacts our attempt at good nutrition, I live it everyday. I have the same stresses that keep you away from exercising as well. I’ve taken plenty of breaks during these times and I know how hard it is to get back. You just have to take the 1st step and not get discouraged. 

Persistence

 After several years of trying to get a program into an area of concern for good men and women of our protective services, I was called upon to help create a program with attainable and sustainable goals of health. I couldn’t be happier with a meeting that has never happened in an industry that has more concerns that most. These men and women deserve something for their daily efforts and have gotten next to nothing for decades. I am so honored to be part of this, and excited for the progress this department and community are about to go through. 
All of my tireless nights of research and experience have been called to do a great service. If you know something is needed, keep pushing for it. It will come if you’re heart and efforts are good and consistent. 

I cannot wait to put this program in motion. 

The hang-ups

What’s done is done. The matter what you’ve done you can’t go back and change. Don’t let it affect your future. If you made a mistake, and you apologized or made any effort to make up for that mistake, you’ve done your part. If someone’s done you wrong and they make no attempts to make it right, let it go. Let them go. There is no use wasting anymore of your time on stress that lowers your quality of life.
It’s hard to realize what these things mean in your life, but if you care to build your wellth, you need to understand to make them a smaller priority.
No matter how you stand on the issue of religion or any other group, you have to respect those that only care for good or peace. And I was watching a Sunday ministry while doing some work. Actually, somebody had it on in the background and walked away, but I left it on. Anyways, what he had to say was true and should be refreshing for those who listen. He talked about “peace stealers.” He talked about the interruption of peace and life by those who look to put negative energy on you. 
If you believe you’re a good person, and that you’re not a “peace stealer,” you could be wrong. You could be stealing your own peace if you continue to think about what could be different.
For the last few months I’ve had this friend, mentor, who hasn’t been speaking to me. I don’t know what I did wrong, but it’s obvious I wronged her in some way. I’ve been racking my brain trying to figure out what I did when I came to the conclusion that I just need to do what I need to do. She had already done so much for me that I was already going to give her and her husband a gift. I was finally able to deliver that gift today, at least the receipt of it, and I was done with the process. If I had done so wrong if she could avoid or ignore me, I didn’t mean to keep bothering her, and I didn’t need to keep thinking about it. 
I reached out, with no response. I now, I have given her a gift in appreciation for all she has done. Not that one gift would repay everything I feel she deserves, but it’s something she never asked for. I am not looking for a thank you or an explanation, only to not feel burdened with the thought of the trail of some kind. 
We cannot fix everything, especially what we don’t know. There is no reason to hold onto things the damage us on a daily basis just so that we can have closure on something we didn’t know we opened.
If you feel like you are holding on to something waiting for an answer, go out and make one last effort to close that door. After that, let it go. If it’s meant to come around again, Enclosure needs to happen from the other side, it will happen at another time. Maybe even a time you were more prepared. Don’t let it damage each day you have.
Where you may not think it’s a big deal, things like this can affect your eating, physical fitness, home life, etc. 
In case you haven’t noticed, when walking the path barefoot, it is the smallest pebble that creates the most pain, just like a splinter that stops you from working with large pieces of wood.
Holistic living is understanding that all pieces of your life affect the other. You cannot have problems with your relationship and think that your exercise and food will not be effected. You also cannot lose sleep and think that it will not affect your job or personal relationships.
Prioritize your wellth. Focus on yourself and your life will follow, as long as your goal is good.

Judgement based health avoidance

I may have written about this before but sometimes I look at myself and get really annoyed. I am not where I want to be and it is my fault. I can make changes very quickly, and that benefit is going away quickly because I am getting older. How many people do you know that won’t accept the health of a healthy trainer because of how they look. Yes, some are way out of what they should be to be taken seriously, but many are in great shape and u healthy people will not ho to them because of appearance. 

It takes a vast amount of dedication to get into top physical condition and stay that way. And for competitors, it is even harder. This seems to be an issue for some because they feel like trainers who are too muscular, or too thin, cannot possibly know what that person needs to be healthy, or they don’t want to look like that trainer. 

A very large trainer doesn’t set out to make their clients look like them. It might not even be possible for them to look that way. And a thin trainer does not only know how to make someone thin like them, but that’s what people think.

I know, its ridiculous, but its completely true. There is a large number of people that think that way when they start looking at getting into shape, or just being healthier. They think those types of trainers are not healthy. Trainers are there to help you be a better version of who you are, modeled after what you want and educating you on the things you don’t know. 

I have, for a number of years now, stayed away from building myself up or letting myself get too thin. I am trying to push a program of total wellth. Full holistic health, if you will. If I get myself to a level that unhealthy people can’t compare themselves to, they will stay away, and if I run my ass off, people that want to build think I cannot help them. 

“I need to look like I am a doughnut away from being overweight, and a plate of spaghetti away from being normal” -or maybe a few plates. That is a thought I have, and its proven correct on many occassions. I have kept myself within a healthy range but off the mark I want to live at in an attempt to help more people. I have finally put a program together for a needed industry and I am ready to put myself on the level I deserve. 

Don’t assume people who look different than you want to don’t have to capability to do so. They are usually the ones that want to help most and have the most knowledge. Are them some knuckleheads? Yep!!! Are there some people people that don’t have a clue what people need? Absolutely!!! The difference is, its your health that is what should be important to you and putting it off because of assumptions and judgements is only hurting you and those that want to see you happy. 

Be smart……. Talk to people who are successful at what THEY want to be, and maybe you’ll learn what it takes to be what you want to be. It won’t be their fault if you fail. You are the one proctastinating.

You can’t be wellthy if you think health has one face. Help other help you.

A Wellthy brain is something you cannot replace.

I choose to not sit still. Just when I free up some time from educating myself, I find something else to educate myself on. It is not that I can’t sit still, its that I choose not to. My brain will keep running, thinking of things that can get me into trouble, so I keep it occupied with building wellth, so that I can build wealth.

I completed another certification in something that can help people live healthier lives. I love learning things that can extend life, or make short lives happier, but I don’t often move in a different direction to learn things that I am not so good at. I am away on training for two of the next 3 weeks and decided to do just that. I do not know a lot about computers, and the awful things that people choose to do with them, like steal others identities to profit from them. Because I don’t know that much, I have chosen to dedicate much of those off hours to learning more about IT, Information Technologies. Anything you learn can end up helping in an area you are already pretty proficient. Its all about seeing the same side of a coin from a different angle.

Anything you do to learn helps the cells in your brain and body grow. That growth helps in the stimulation of new cells that are formed to replace the ones that are dying out. Remember, if you are not moving forward, you may not be moving backwards, but others are moving ahead. I am heading to a life of possibilities that  could include the worst forms of dementia, cancer or any number of diseases or disorders that are claiming our futures. Even though I eat relatively healthy and am relatively active, I, like a large number of the world’s population live a life of stress. And for too many, like myself, who have careers in fields that are focused on the welfare of others, the stress is in overwhelming favor of shorter, painful lives.

Create Wellth that can improve your quality of life, no matter what you do. Focus on your sleep, your nutrition, creating new habits of exercise and positive emotion. No matter what you believe, the life you have now is the only one you are guaranteed and what you can pass on is the only legacy you will ever have.

What are you worth? What is your WELLTH? What is the wellth you will pass on to those who are watching and learning from you? Learn something new and smile at someone you don’t know, each day. You never know what e/affect it will have on tomorrow.

Live well today for a brighter tomorrow.

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Belief is the first step to success. Whether you are pursuing a career or just finishing a goal you have, believing in yourself and what you are doing is the main key to succeeding.

Anyone who is paying attention can see the truth in the work that is being done. If you are selling yourself for a job and just spouting off things that you think will impress the interviewer, you will be disappointed. If you lose hope in what you are trying to sell, the buyer will see your lack of confidence.

You’re smart, dedicated and hard working by nature. We start to fall behind when we believe that we are less than others for reasons that should not normally matter. We get so caught up in just succeeding in our endeavors that we forget why we are in the positions we are. We forget who we are and that new persona becomes what others see, and may eventually be what deters our success.

We are hard enough on ourselves without creating more stress by creating doubt in others. Dig in. You are who you are. If you see change that needs to be made within yourself, by all means, grow. If you change, thinking that it will help you be more successful, you will eventually build up a resentment within yourself.

Believe in your dreams and your ability to achieve them without changing who you are to convince others of what needs to be done. You will find someone that sees the accomplishment in you and will be willing to take the chances needed to see the task through.

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Just because you can, doesdn’t mean you should. There are a few things that really get my blood boiling, and I always feel like I have to set a few things straight. Some people have thoughts that are, well, just ridiculous, but there’s nothing we can do about it. 

Social media is a prime example of creating hate and speaking out of your a** on nearly every issue there is. And people, mostly “news” organizations use these mediums to do just that, and bring in money by doing so. That’s the world we live, as Denzel Washington recently stated to an entertainment channel, “it doesn’t matter if its true or hurts somebody, as long as you’re first to get it out there”, and he was right. 

A northern California news channel made a report after the Asiana Airlines crash that reported the pilots’ names from the crash. No organization had released the names of the pilots yet, and as it goes, neither did they. The news station quickly said the 4 names of the pilots, in an inappropriate manner and obviously, completely wrong. I’ll say one name and you can look up the rest because I don’t believe in perpetuating an awful -yet hilarious- act. I’m not sure it was the first name, but Sum Ting Wong was one of 4 names clearly not vetted before release. You get my point. 

I would normally fire back at posts that were just ridiculous, but I finally learned, and not just on social media, to keep it to myself. 

I have realized, since I stopped firing back, that I am much more proud of myself for not trying to set ignorant people straight. I haven’t evolved tojust  ignoring it altogether but I type it out and delete it. I’m actually very proud of myself. 

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Information overload and how it effects us. You’re missing something. It’s okay, we all are. We are meant to be, for the most part. If we weren’t forced to miss something, we wouldn’t allow the media and all information distributors to have this much control of us.

I’m not speaking on a conspiracy theory level, but a knowledge and progression level. We’re all missing something, and in many cases a lot of something. Let me give you an example of something I had been missing, and maybe by choice. 

It took me years to find out that I am defficient at learning, studying and remembering to be more exact. I’m actually really good at learning, on my own terms. Taking college classes between the ages of 35-40 is not easy, especially when you never spent actual time in a college learning environment, and you didn’t do mich studying in high school, 20 years prior. Now that it matters and you’re doing something for a good reason, you want to do it well. 

I have been blinded by what works for me because I thought too much about what other people did, or I just thought I would remember, but there is way too mich information and I found that the things I remember aren’t the things being tested at the end of a module. Frustrating. I also found that I read things and interpret them how I want, usually in a way that suits us, and our goals best. Like doing the least amount of work, for instance. 

Through reading, studying and testing, especially open-book, I finally figured out what works best for me, but it took a lot of thought. I came to the answers i needed by focusing on how to absorb the information best, while I was reading it, not well after, because, well, we really never go back like we say we will. We lead ourselves to failure because we get caught up in things that are shoveled to us in mass quantities as promotion. Things that really only hurt us. 

When we take the focus away from our own progression, we fall into a state of regression, and right into the hands of the people who get paid to spread misinformation in bundles, hoping something touches the right nerve, taking us off course.

Think about it. What have you been wanting, or possible needing to do that you have not been able to accomplish? Now think about what you have spent that time on. 

Sometimes, for me, it’s this. Keeping up with models of advertisement and social media to get a target audience that needs help in life, in one way or another, takes quite a bit of time, but its time well spent because if I get to one person while I’m doing it, it makes up for the short time I could’ve been researching or program planning. The point is to help the people, so as hard as it is for me to take time away, I know I need to, but, as I’ve learned, I need to do it on a designed schedule, and get it all done together so that it doesn’t last all day, which it can. 

Stay away from sources that take you away feom your goals. Stay away from topics that drive you away from your planned course. Stay away from people who are really there to be an obstacle, playing no active role in your evolution.

When you start to do something, think about why you’re doing it and take a few minutes to think about how you’re doing it and if you could be further along if you changed an aspect of it. Progress……

Evolve……